Stephanie Carver

Dr. Marrissa Dick | November 16th, 2020
Stephanie Carver (Photos by Still Shots Photography)

Stephanie Carver (Photos by Still Shots Photography)

We are all faced with situations that seemingly will overwhelm and defeat us. We ask God, “Why is this happening to me?” Remember, when life seems out of control that what the devil means for evil Jesus will turn around for good. If you are in the midst of an evil attack by the enemy, realize that the matter is not over yet. If you keep your eyes on the Lord, He will turn the situation around to your good. Impossible?

At some point in our lives, we will all be faced with situations that will overwhelm us and often leave us feeling defeated in our lives. Some experiences are so tragic we may even cry out and ask God if He has forsaken us. It is not that He has turned a blind eye; instead, He intends for the experience to be used for His glory. Much like Stephanie Carver’s “Joseph experience” two decades ago which left her feeling emotionally and mentally thwarted and physically bruised. “But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good.” ~ Genesis 50:20 ~NKJ. Stephanie could use this verse as her mantra because through the domestic violence and the sexual assault she suffered she surely wondered, “Why me, Lord?” Now she understands that her mission is far greater than her personal life experience. Instead of turning from God she listened to His voice and used her experience to educate and empower others who found themselves in similar situations and prevents them from going to that sunken place.

Much like Joseph, Stephanie has been rewarded for pressing past her pain. At age 47, Carver is a single mom now living her best life with her lifelong friend and now business partner, Lamont Bradsher, co-owner and managing partner ofCenterStage In The City. Bradsher’s strength and support have been immeasurable as she empowers any community within the United States with LifeLine Unified, LLC. This organization was established in 2016 to assist women with “safe” survival plans that aide in escaping emotional, mental, and physical abusive relationships.

According to Carver, “It’s common for people to wonder why people don’t just leave abusive relationships. Well, that’s much easier said than done. LifeLine understands that everybody’s “why” is different. In all actuality, most relationships become more volatile when the person who is being abused decides to leave. We don’t judge why people remain in toxic relationships. We’re here to make sure that when they are ready to leave, they can do it in a safe way. We treat each person and their situation on an individual basis because we understand that every situation is different and so are our Safe Survival Plans. We don’t rush our clients into a decision, but we are here for them when they are ready because “safety” is our number one priority.”

Stephanie is adamant that planning is key to survival. According to Wikipedia, planning is the process of thinking about the activities required to achieve a desired goal. It is the first and foremost activity to achieve desired results. It involves the creation and maintenance of a plan, such as psychological aspects that require conceptual skills. This definition is a staple in her organization.
“There’s a right way to leave a toxic environment so you don’t lose your life. You need to have a plan and that’s just one of the things we do here is help develop successful escape plans. Another program LifeLine Unified offers is called Saving Unborn Children. Clients who become pregnant as a result of sexual assault or molestation can come to us for assistance. Our organization counsels’ women and provides resources to them so they can have that child and leave it in our care instead of tossing that child into the dumpster or leaving that child in a public restroom on the floor, on an abandoned porch or in a ditch. All over the world women are fighting through the shame of rape, molestation or teenagers who become pregnant because they have given into peer pressure. That child is a reminder of what happened to them or even what they willingly participated in but cannot handle the repercussion of their action. Instead of dealing with that shame many will have that child, but they will throw that baby away like it’s garbage and those precious babies are not garbage. People need to know that there is another alternative and LifeLine is that alternative. In addition to our Safe Survival Plans and our Saving Unborn Children program, we also offer a program called, Abstinence Until Marriage or as we like to call it – – ATM. Now this program has a mentor associated with it. Each person receives an “ATM” card that has their name and a vision scripture on the front. On the back of the card is the name and number of a person you can call should you find yourself in a situation where you are about to give in to a moment of passion. I know that this is not a popular topic because if we talk about it, we have to be about it. I strongly advocate for abstinence until marriage, so nobody has to have the experience of having an abortion.”

Stephanie works hand-in-hand with local abortion clinics when patients decide abortion is not the right choice. She does this because she knows that there are thousands of loving families waiting to receive infants in their homes so they can live the life God has ordained for them.

Unfortunately, in 2020, North Carolina has recorded 29,500 abortions to date and numbers continue to rise. The good thing overall is that the United States abortion rate is steadily decreasing from its’ 862,360 recorded in 2017. LifeLineUnified would like to see the rate of adoption rise worldwide. Carver shares, “It is important that the youth understand how their actions can affect their lives. They struggle with “puppy love” and they have sex far to early without understanding the complexities associated with sex like soul ties. If we want our youth to stand, the adults must stand up and have these conversations.” Carver states over 80% of her clients would have had a different outcome if the couple would have practiced abstinence.

Abstinence or Celibacy affords couples the opportunity of getting to know one another intimately. Intimacy is so much greater than sex. Teenagers and even some adults do not understand that. Celebrities like Russel Wilson and Ciara, Devon Franklin and Megan Goode, Tim Tebow and Miss Universe, Demi-Leigh Nel-Peters just to name a few, lived a life of abstinence before marriage.
Why give your body to someone that has no intention of marrying you. You’re setting yourself up for pain, heart ache, depression and these crazy fatal attraction breakups that lead to death! My dream is that we as a community learn to be proactive on the front end before the problem, instead of finding solutions after the problem. Self-love is real and you should want to save yourself for the person God wants you to spend the rest of your life with. Here at LifeLine we promote self-love and abstinence so that our clients can see themselves in their future experiencing healthy relationships on all levels. I believe in living and teaching by example. My life, and my relationship with God, and personal relationships with others are examples. I don’t sit in the seat of judgement on anyone’s personal beliefs. I provide these services because I know firsthand that there is a need for them. Someone tossed me a “LifeLine” and let me tell you that I am grateful for it because now I have the opportunity to pay it forward.”

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